Nisha’s Journey to Pink

Hello all, I’ve been gone so long and have had so much of life going on that I don’t know where to start. I wanted to take time away from writing in order to get R.A.W Enrichment Center off the ground. The grand opening day was scheduled for June 27th and hours before I was due to have the open house I received a call that my father passed from cancer.

Now being that cancer is not an overnight disease that just steals you overnight, I thought I was prepared for his passing. I learned the hard way that you are never really prepared.

My fathers passing has started a series of events. It made me sit down and reevaluate my life and priorities. I was completely honest with myself and found some areas I was lagging in due to my own personal fears. You see I had found a lump on my sternum a few years ago and before I had my daughter even had the ultrasounds and mammograms completed. But I never went any further than this. My rational was that I was just to busy but in reality it was fear.  I started thinking of the women that I dealt with  and all the areas that they were held back due to their fear, their lack of resources and/or support.

I started working on A New You Women’s Conference as a form of therapy and motivation. The Conference will promote Breast Cancer Awareness and also deal with financing a home, insurance ,wills and trust, fitness training, make-up and image. I  was blessed to have a group of local business women come together to provide the resources and information that can help propel a woman forward.

We will be giving away a mini makeover worth approx. $500.00 inluding hair,make up application and image consultation.

The Ultimate Giveaway is worth approx. $6000.00 includes a years worth of life and credit coaching,fitness training as well as the mini makeover. This is sure to change one blessed woman’s life. I hope that woman is you! For more information on the giveaways and tickets email info.anewyou@ymail.compartial proceeds will be going toA Charity for Hope helping local women in Burlington,Camden, Gloucestor Counties with breast cancer by providing monetary assistance for things such as co-payments to a night on the town.  

By the Grace of God I have been able to work through my own issues by working with some great women to try to impact the life of others. Everything is indeed for HIS Glory.

I had my operation on Thursday and will find out next week what it is or is not. And I know that HE is holding on to me as HE holds on to you.

Be blessed and talk to you next week.

How do you react when God says “Sit Still”?

I am the type of person who is always moving and never sitting still.
It is a problem that I had since a was a very young girl.  I was always surrounded by family so I never had to learn how to be by myself.
As I got older I added friends into this mix. As a teenager I was always out with my friends and when the weekend came if I didn’t have plans with my
friends I was on the train to North Jersey to hang out with my family.  As my life progressed I started adding things to the mix a career and men.
If I was still it was long enough to go to sleep get up and start all over again.  I even had a girlfriend call me one day and tell me that I was running from something.
What did she know? I was just having fun. Then things started changing.. no matter how much I was doing I became restless.
So I like most thought I was restless because I wasn’t satisfied with my job or my relationship with my boyfriend at the time.

I thought the man I was with at the time was my all and my everything so it couldn’t have been the relationship… lol the job was great
I was golden girl getting praises for my work and my efforts so it couldn’t be the job right? I add on a volunteer position to the job and I still felt
restless. I was still hanging out with my girlfriends partying but always restless. Then I heard a voice say, ” Just be still.” I would love to say that I listened and everything has been beautiful since.

LOL! Nope I have been called hardheaded a few times in my life. Boy when I look back now..Yes I was.

I keep moving at the speed of light until things started unraveling. All that was glittering before started tarnishing.  The relationship I was in started to unravel. I was so restless I left the job I was
happy with to start a new career besides all the advise of the opposite from people who were my counsel at the time.

Still I heard the voice again tell me, “Just be still.”  I was to spent to keep running so one day I actually just sat still. No work, No man, No phone calls Nothing.

I picked up my bible that day and just read and prayed and received clarity over what my next step was to be.

Now that was a few years ago but even in my busy life now I still hear the voice say “Just be still.”  In those soft quiet moments
that I have with God I find clarity, peace, understanding and sometimes I don’t feel like I’m reaching anything. But that is when God is moving in my life the most
because I am not getting into His Way.

Separated

I checked out the thesaurus for separate and here is a few words that  we have: divide, disconnect, split, take apart, branch out and break free

 I recently talked to some friends, two separate conversations in the same night, about not feeling as though we still fit in with people we grew up with or was associated with.  It had me thinking about how I feel when I am around some of my old friends and they are still talking about the same things they talked about when we were in high school, when they are still doing the same things that we did when we were in our early twenty’s. I can no longer relate to them.  It’s not because I’m better than they are. If it was not for the grace and mercy of God I could still be where they are.   When I read  1 Peter 2:9-10 “ But you are a chosen people a royal priesthood a holy nation, a people belonging to God , that you may declare the praises to Him who called you out of darkness into His wonderful light.”  it cleared things  up for me.  I am supposed to feel different from people and I am not supposed to “fit” in with everyone in the world. Why because I am no longer of the world.  I can relate because of my past with people and I can show them who I am now versus I who used to be. I can be an example of what God can do for them.  It’s not because I am better but because He called, I answered and then I was set apart from the world.  He did it for me and He can do it for you too.

A Search to Be Proverbs 31:10 Pt. III

I haven’t been here in a few days to update my blog because I was finding my balance.  I have had a few things going on this week from my little sister having a baby, working with my life coaching clients, writing a article for Mom’s Marble and more importantly my son getting burned with a cup of tea.  I never knew that a cup of tea could do so much damage! Now thank GOD that he is ok and that it’s not that bad.  

I had to find my balance this week.  Sometimes life is scheduled out where you have your planner and a schedule for every minute. Then life happens and you have to step back and reprioritize everything.  What is important for that minute and how can you still deal with your daily responsibilities. 

Now a Virtuous Woman understands that some events we can prepare for.  If you look at Proverbs 31:21-23 we see our Proverbs Virtuous Woman storing up everything that her family needed to make it through the winter.  This weekend I could have been more prepared if I would have went out and brought another emergency kit after finding out that my son played doctor with the one we had.  But I  put it off thinking I could hold out another week before going to Wal-mart and stacking back up. I really can’t stand going to that store you go in knowing what you’re going to buy and come out spending no less than $100.00. Never fails!   Ok,  back to our Virtuous Woman… she had balance she took care of her family, she worked and so important to note she took care of herself.  She is fugal but she is still buying beautiful items for her and making beautiful covering for her bed.  Our girl understands that after she works hard she needs to rest.  So I didn’t feel bad at all for taking a few days just for me to breathe and to spend time with my GOD and talk to HIM and get my head back in the game.  You can’t not be a help to yourself or anyone else if you are off track.

 

We’ve learned a lot about the Virtuous Woman and how I apply it to my life.  Now let’s end out with a review of Proverb: 31:55-27 …It describes our girl as being clothed with strength, dignity, laughing at future days…. This girl is not stressed out and her steps are ordered  Psalms 119:165 “Great peace have they who love your law and nothing can make them stumble.”  Now I don’t know about you but I rather live a stress free life and hold myself to a certain standard and not be made to stumble and this is an ongoing process. Every day I have to think about the things I say and the things that I do and see if it holds up and sometimes ladies I do fall short as well and have to get down and have a talk with my Father about whatever it is going on.

 Alright, that is the end of our Proverbs Woman maybe will do another series and speak about the kind of husband that she had. (hmmm it’s a thought)

 

 

A search to be the Proverbs 31:10 Woman Part II

Hi All, Did you get a chance to digest what a virtuous woman is? Well lets take up where we left off.  About going out there and hustling.

When I read Proverbs 31:13-18 the scriptures talked about how hard this woman works.  She’s out there looking for clothes at a discount. So this was telling me that I can be the diva that I want but it’s better to get it at a sale or go to the quiet spot that everyone isn’t up on.  I need to be out there using the coupons and that has always been a thing that I had a problem with I never had time to get the Sunday paper out and clip coupons and use store cards.  LOL ! Now I feel like I am accomplishing something when they ring me up and I have a savings of $50.00 which is money that stayed in my pocket. Now back to the Virtuous Woman she was giving her servants a portion of her meal.  So this was telling me to take care of the people around me because I don’t have the servants yet(LOL did you catch on to the yet?) If that means that I am baking brownies for the kids to take to their school for the teachers to show that I appreciate all they do then it something.  The gesture doesn’t have to be big to make a big difference.  

Now Our Proverbs Girl is versatile Proverbs 31:16-18 has her buying up fields this was telling me our girl had good credit.  Now I know from my personal experience how bad credit will slow you down.  With me being in real estate I would go to my Ex and tell him about good deals I saw out there that I knew where income producing properties and he would be slow about moving on it.  Now if I had been the Proverbs girl then I would have shrugged my shoulders and went out and brought the properties myself.

But our girl was doing more than just buying up real estate the scriptures say that the work of her hands were good and she was profitable. She’s was up at night still doing things.  One of my best friends had children before I did and whenever she sat down she would go to sleep.  I always  teased  her about this. But once I had my three I learned that if you want to keep your house clean if you want to accomplish anything most of your work is done at night when the house is quiet.  I had to limit the time I spent over my girlfriend’s house.  Once I did this I started making more progress. See a Virtuous Woman understand that the scripture at Ecclesiates: 10:18 “If a man is lazy, the rafters will sag; if his hands are idle, the house leaks.” I know that means that you can lose everything that God has provided you with by sitting still and not making moves and so did the Virtuous Woman of Proverbs.

On that note I’ll let you think of what we just went over and we’ll come back tomorrow to talk about how we are supposed to maintain a balanced life as a Virtuous Woman.

 

A Search to be the Proverbs 31:10 Woman

DEFINITION OF VIRTUOUS- TO HAVE EXCELLENT MORALS

 A Virtuous Woman does what is morally right.  Now to help us get a picture of what a Virtuous Women is let’s look at what she is not.  A Virtuous Woman who is in the club every Friday night and Saturday night while the kids is at home with babysitters.  Now ladies there is nothing wrong with going out to have some girls time but if your child never sees you on the weekends or goes out for family outings then you know there is a problem.  A Virtuous Woman does not believe she is or should be treated as a female dog or a ho.  A Virtuous Women knows herself and more importantly knows GOD.   She loves GOD more than she loves a man even if that man is her husband.  A Virtuous Women understands that she cannot go out and spend the bill money on that new Versace bag.  A Virtuous Woman will receive her counseling from the women in her circle who display these virtuous attributes, from male family members or friends… she does not receive counseling from her girlfriends who are men haters…and we all got those friends…never had a successful relationship with anyone in their life and most of all a Virtuous Woman will not receive counseling from those who do not believe and fear GOD.  

Now let’s talk about my search to be a virtuous woman.

As a young single woman dating in the world I was not sure who or what I was looking for in a man. More importantly I was not sure who I was as a single woman. I compromised myself and my values.  I always heard about the “Virtuous Woman” in the Bible and I always wanted to be like her. But how do I get there? I’ve been pondering on this for a very long time and have finally gotten to the point where I am being praised by male family members saying that I am ready to make a man a good wife…(LOL )I wasn’t even aware that I was lacking but obviously I was…

 

It says in the Word “Her worth is far above Rubies” I don’t know about you but I was not treating myself like I was worth a ruby or even rubies.  I wasn’t letting people degrade me or abuse me but I was abusing myself. Giving my body and opening my soul without a wedding ring or even the promise of one.  I went through turmoil after turmoil from relationship to relationship and become a single mother along the way.  I felt like I failed GOD and lost track of who I was and who I wanted to be.  But I never lost track of Proverbs 31:10

GOD Provided instructions for me to be the Virtuous Woman and I had to look close and explore it.

 

Tomorrow I’ll explore Proverbs 31:11 and how I applied it to my life for change

 

PRV. 31-11 HER HUSBAND HAS GOOD CONFIDENCE IN HER AND LACKS NOTHING OF VALUE